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- ¿Por qué perdonar?
- A Christian Way: The Bible and The Four Steps to Forgiveness
- Como Perdoar
- Como Superar una Separacion o la Infidelidad
- Course in Miracles or Four Steps to Forgiveness?
- Donald Trump and Forgiveness
- Foreign rights to Forgiveness is Power
- Forgiveness and Anxiety, Panic and Depression
- Forgiveness and Diwali (Deepavali)
- Forgiveness and Spiral Dynamics Integral
- Forgiveness is Power
- Gene Keys and The Four Steps to Forgiveness
- Happiness, Success and Freedom Through Forgiveness
- Ho’oponopono versus Four Steps to Forgiveness
- How to Forgive Infidelity, Adultery, Separation and Divorce.
- How to let go of resentment, anger and bitter feelings.
- Marriage and Forgiveness
- Mengampuni Pasangan Selingkuh, Mungkinkah?
- Mindfulness and Forgiveness
- Obesity, Weight Loss and Forgiveness
- Pardonner l’infidélité
- Prayer for Forgiveness
- Repentance: Will You Forgive Me?
- Revenge, Hate, Anger, Resentment and Forgiveness
- Self Help Book: Forgiveness is Power
- Self Respect, Self Esteem, Self Confidence and Forgiveness
- Sex and Forgiveness
- Stephen Lawrence Father Forgives His Son’s Killers
- The Miracle of Forgiveness
- The Search for the Holy Grail: Forgiveness
- Therapy, Counseling, Coaching and Forgiveness
- Traição do Namorado?
- Why Forgive? South Africans Know Why.
- Why Forgive? South Africans Know Why. 2
- Измена мужу. Прощать?
- Пережить неверность
- なぜ、許しが必要なのでしょう？
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Why You Can't Forgive and How You Can Forgive
Most of the things which stop you forgiving are not your fault. They are usually a mix of not having a clear specific method, being afraid (sometimes wisely) that someone you are trying to “forgive” will just hurt you again and the widespread unclarity and confusion around what forgiveness actually is and how it works.
Many people feel secretly guilty and ashamed that they are no as forgiving as they believe they “should” be. Berating yourself for not being forgiving does not help you become more forgiving – just the opposite, in fact. Trying to push yourself, against your own better judgement, to “forgive” someone who has abused you in some way is not the answer either. That way you can end up in a situation where someone who has hurt you (and who has not changed in any meaningful way) can do the same thing all over again.
We need to elevate ourselves and get a new perspective before we can adequately assess whether a particular relationship can become healthy and beneficial to both people, or not. We also need to understand that: Forgiveness can include ‘Goodbye’. Above all we need to realize that blaming ourselves for our inability to forgive, and assuming that something is wrong with us because we can’t forgive (or can’t do it very well), is usually pointless and self-defeating.
In this episode we explore some of the common blocks which could get in the way of you being able to forgive and how to handle those blocks so you can learn to forgive and enjoy all the wonderful benefits (happiness, peace of mind, freedom) that forgiveness brings.
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