Four Steps to Forgiveness – Step 3 – Opposite Emotions

Why You Can't Forgive

Opposite Emotions: Self Help Guide for going from negative to positive emotions.

Written by: William Fergus Martin

This list of Opposite Emotions can help you with Step 2 of the 3 of the Four Steps to Forgiveness. You use it like a Self Help Guide to clarify any current negative feelings you are having and what the opposite positive emotions are likely to be.

It is only meant as a rough guide. If you already have a clear idea of the words to use in Step 3 then you don’t need this list except as a possible way to find even juicier words to use.

For Step 3 simply look for the words on the left hand column which are the same, or similar, to the ones you used in Step 2, and find the opposite under the Opposites column. Choose the word or words which seems the juiciest ones to you. If none fit, make a best guess. Feelings may well change and clarify as  you loop through the 4 Steps to Forgiveness a few times. If you need it there is a Four Steps to Forgiveness Overview.

If really stuck use  love, freedom or blessings as they can work as the opposite of just about anything.  It is more important to do the steps now than it is to wait till you are convinced that you can do them perfectly.

FeelingsOpposites
Step 2 WordsStep 3 Words
angeraffection
abandonedadored, cherished
abusedvalued, appreciated, cared for, tenderness
aggressionhumility, gentleness
awfulwonder
bitterenthusiasm, sweetness
boredominvolvement, interest, curiosity
closedopen, available
confusionclarity
crazy, dementedsanity, stability
darknesslight, truth
depressedhappiness, loving life, in love with life
devastatedrenewal, restored, complete
dirty, filthycleanliness, purity
disdain contemptadmiration, approval
disgustdelight
revulsionappreciation
emptyfullness, fulfilment
fearhope, love
frustrationcontentment
giving upendurance, stamina
guiltinnocence
hate, despiselove, in love
hopelesshope, willing to go on
hurtrelief, blessing
inferiorequality, feeling valued
liestruth
lonelinesscommunity, belonging, partnership
lostbelonging, at home, being discovered
mouldyfreshness
nervousboldness, courage
numbalive, new life
obsessedfreedom
pessimismoptimism
pointlessmeaningfulness
povertywealth, abundance
putridsweet perfume, delight
ragepeace, ease, blessedness, vision
rejectionwelcome, support, acceptance
remorseways to make amends
repulsionattraction
sadnesshappiness
shamepride, purity, innocence
shynesscuriosity, boldness
spitefulkindness, consideration
stuckmovement, flow
suspiciontrust
terrorpeace, serenity, love
torn apartrenewed, restored
uglybeauty, grace
unfulfilledsatisfaction, fulfilment
unhealthyhealth, wellbeing
uselessuseful, good, blessed
vengefulfriendliness, goodwill, kindness
weaknessstrength, back bone
worthlessworthiness, admiration, appreciation