Therapy, Psychiatry, Psychology, Self Esteem and the Power of Forgiveness

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How a simple to learn, and easy to use, method may well help with many types of therapy, whether it is; Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. (DBT), Emotion-Focused Therapy, Mindfulness-based Therapy, or some type of group, family or interpersonal therapy. The method can be managed by the practitioner, as well as offered to clients as a Self Help tool, to enable them to release beliefs and attitudes in their subconscious mind.

I was recently giving some workshops in Asia on Forgiveness. The lady I was staying with said to me, “My neighbour Jane would really like to meet you. She is a Psychiatrist and she has heard about your method, The Four Steps to Forgiveness, and wants to learn how to use it. “

When I spoke to Jane, the psychiatrist, it turned out that one of her clients had done my workshop on The Four Steps to Forgiveness. Jane was so surprised by the positive changes in her client that she wanted to learn more about the method I had used with the possibility of learning how to use the method too. Of course, I was very happy to teach her and now she also gives workshops on “The Four Steps” and often uses it with her clients.

Lack of forgiveness and lack of the ability to forgive, is likely an underlying cause of many mental health problem. Just like we cannot have a healthy physical body with undigested food blocking up the normal channels of digestions; we cannot have mental and emotional health if we are clogged up with “undigested” life experiences.

If we feel very bitter, resentful and angry about something which has happened to us, or excessively guilty and ashamed for something we have done, it is essential that we learn to move on at let go of the past. Forgiveness makes us free. It frees us from living part of our life continuously in the past.

When we have an experience in life it is an opportunity to learn and to grow. It can be very difficult to find anything of value in some life situations, but that is all the more reason to try. For example, when I went through divorce I found it very painful. But I also discovered new resources of emotional strength and resiliency that I did not know I had. This not only helped me cope with the divorce it also helped me become a more resilient and happier person in the longer term.

If we insist on thinking of ourselves as the victim of circumstances it will be difficult, or impossible, for anyone to help us until we change our attitude. If we build our sense of self, around feelings of being wounded, harmed and treated unfairly, then our self esteem will be low. It will then become difficult to feel and sense of wellbeing which makes life worth living.

Yet, you can learn to let go of the past. You can create a positive and empowered self image which allows you to build your sense of self as a strong, capable and independent person. You can find a renewed sense of vigour and passion for life.

What we all need to do is to learn how to forgive, and use it when we need to, so that things get better. Why not try The Four Steps to Forgiveness for yourself and see how it works in your life? If you are a practitioner, then you will see if it would be relevant for your clients.

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Written by William Fergus Martin, Author: Forgiveness is Power.