Addictions, Compulsions and Forgiveness
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When you forgive you win: learn to become free of addictions and compulsions. Download Free Forgiveness Ebook
One of the things that can help us overcome addictions and compulsions is to become able to face the pains of the past and to let them go. For example, there are many mentions of the importance of Forgiveness in the obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) community and it is also cited of being of notable benefit for obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) too. Lack of forgiveness of those who caused you pain in the past can contribute to having addictions and compulsions in the present. By learning how to forgive (such as by using The Four Steps to Forgiveness) you can let go of the pain from your past and the behaviour that is was being caused by that pain.
The pain of the past may include; anger, resentment, bitterness, or hate and shame from being treated badly by other people. It can include memories of actual physical, or emotional torture, and the traumatic effects this can have on a person’s thinking and behaviour.
This type of suffering can make us feel that there is something missing and something not right about our life or that there is something fundamentally wrong with us. We may feel a gap, a type of emptiness, or numbness, inside ourselves. Or, we may be troubled by nightmares and painful feelings that do not seem to go away. This can make us feel very lonely even when we are surrounded by people.
In an attempt to escape from our pain we might seek relief in some kind of excitement, or some kind of activity that will detract from the painful, unhappy feelings inside us. This can cause us to gamble; or to become addicted to alcohol or drugs. But, this only numbs the pain for a short time and then we feel even worse. We then not only feel bad because of what has happened in our past; we also feel bad because of the hurtful things we are doing to ourselves, and to those closest to us, in the present.
We might be gambling away money that our family really needs. We might be hurting our body from eating too much, or too little. We might get angry and say, or do, hurtful things to people who try and get us to change our ways. We might feel that even our closest friends do not understand us. Yet, it is really us who do not understand; we do not truly understand ourselves, and our own needs.
The biggest need we have is to learn how to forgive. We need to forgive those who hurt us in the past so that we can let go of our old pain. When we let go of that old pain we can be free to live a good life. We also need to forgive ourselves for the ways way have hurt others. We need to forgive and move on.
As we learn to forgive others we will find that the pain we feel from what other people did to us will begin to ease and finally we will be able to let it go. In letting go of those old pains we become much more able to let go of the addictions that they were causing. As we learn to forgive ourselves, we may also want to find ways to make amends to those we have hurt.
When you forgive you win. You win the life you were always meant to live. You will be free of the people and the situations that hurt you. How would you live your life as if those painful situations had never occurred? Would you be happier, freer, and more able to enjoy life? Of course you would be happier! By learning to forgive, freedom, happiness, and more, can be yours. You will feel like a winner, every day, and it will not cost you any money to experience it. Eventually, the false promises of the casinos, the bars, the gambling dens, and their lies, will no longer attract you.
When you forgive you are free. You are free of the past and can live in the present moment. You can then begin to find joy in just being alive. It is the joy that children often have and that adults, too often, sadly lack. You can gain that joy as you learn to forgive.
Perhaps you live in worry and fear and cannot find peace. By learning to forgive you will realise that the source of peace is within yourself. As you let go of the past you will begin to discover the natural state of peace and ease within yourself. You will find peace through forgiveness.
Perhaps you are judging yourself harshly. You may have been attacking yourself with thoughts and feelings of self-blame and self-criticism because of your addictive behaviour. Yet, this has not helped much if it has not freed you from that behaviour. Why not try another way? Try Forgiveness.
Learning to forgive will take a bit of work. You will need to look honestly at yourself and your feelings. This will not always be easy, but it is much easier than the pain and suffering caused by leading a life that is governed by addictions.
Learning to forgive cannot hurt you; it can only help you.
Learn to forgive now by using one of the links on this page. Practise forgiving every day and begin to leave behind your addictions and live the wonderful life you were meant to live.
By William Fergus Martin, Author: Forgiveness is Power.
Four Steps to Forgiveness
Four Steps to Forgiveness
A powerful way to freedom, happiness and success.
William Fergus Martin