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There is a spiritual law that could be expressed as, “We experience what we intend for others”. When we want to have forgiveness then it really helps if we to give forgiveness. Forgive to be forgiven: the practise of forgiving people for the hurts which they cause us, is one of the most effective ways to experience being forgiven for the ways in which we have hurt others. And, it makes it less likely that we will make the same mistakes again. This is not just a theory, you will find that it is an actual fact of life which comes to you as you deliberately practise Forgiveness.
To have forgiveness; give forgiveness.
Forgive Yourself to be Forgiven and Forgiving
Do you believe that only God can forgive? If so, then how do you know that has not already happened? Now, can you forgive?
Another important part of being forgiven it is to forgive yourself. Some say, or assume, that only God can Forgive them. If you believe that, or not, and you are judging yourself; then you need to forgive yourself. Anyone who judges themselves also needs to forgive themselves; otherwise they won’t feel forgiven. Whatever is true on a spiritual level; it is true on a psychological level that we need to forgive ourselves, if we judge ourselves. As you learn to forgive yourself, you will also learn how to forgive others and have a much better understanding of what Forgiveness is. If you take on the task of judging yourself then you need to also take on the task of forgiving yourself – and leave the rest to the Ineffible. You may need to at least try to make amends to someone you have harmed in order to really forgive yourself, but it will be worth it – even just for the peace of mind it will bring you. If you really want to have peace of mind, offer whatever peace of mind you can, through kindness, goodness and forgiveness, to others.
You benefit immensely when you choose to forgive and so does everyone around you, especially those closest to you. Whether you need to forgive others, need to forgive yourself, or need to be forgiven, doing so sets you free from the past and enables you to fulfil your true potential. You break free of unhappy habits and ways of looking at life such as; through anger, fear, self hate, self recrimination, self pity, victim attitudes and blame. Forgiveness allows you to break free from limiting beliefs and limiting attitudes. It frees up your mental and emotional energies which you can then can apply to creating a better life.
What If They Won’t Forgive Me?
Even if they refuse to forgive you, make amends if you can, forgive yourself and move on by leading a good and forgiving life.
It can be harder to feel forgiven if the other person refuses to forgive you. All you can do is forgive yourself, make amends if possible and move on with your life. It could be that trust has broken down in the relationship and that can take time to rebuild – and sometimes the other person is not wililng to even try. You may desperately want them to forgive you, but they just won’t.
The important thing is to realise is that when we hurt someone it is usually because we became too self-absorbed to notice, or to care, about the damage we were doing to them. Becoming caught in self hate and self recrimination, because of the mistakes we have made, can be part of the same problem of being too self absorbed. Guilt, remorse and shame, can be helpful in getting us back on the right path. But if these are overdone, they can keep us stuck in a form of self hate which is just another way of being all caught up in ourselves. We need to take our attention off ourselves and learn to think more about those around us and what we can do to benefit them. Forgiving ourselves, ironically, can help us become less self-centred and less self-absorbed, because it includes acknowledging what we did to another and thinking about how to make amends. It causes us to see more clearly the effect we have on others and how to improve this, so that we offer more good energy to more people.
Forgive Yourself to be Forgiven?
When you don’t forgive yourself you reduce the good which can flow through you to others.
When you have not forgiven yourself then the chances are that you might be silently or stealthily, keeping good things away from you, as a form of self punishment, or from a feeling that you don’t deserve good things. Yet, the effect of this is that you not only reduce the good that are flowing to you; you also reduce the good that can flow through you, to others. The choices you make and the things that you believe are possible will all be influenced by the ways you have not forgiven. As you learn to forgive yourself the energy which was going into unhappy thoughts and feelings gets liberated and can flow into creating a life that benefits you and others; rather than limiting you, and limiting the good that you can do.
However, remorse has its place in being able to forgive ourselves. Sometimes we need to feel remorse in order to take full responsibity for our actions and to offer restitution where possible. If you are thinking about, or planning, to do something to hurt or use another person, especially if it is similar, or equivalent, to what you need to forgive yourself for, then it is not likely to work. Better first to focus on forgiving others for whatever makes you so angry that you want to cause hurt.
As you learn to forgive you benefit everyone you are in contact with. Your thinking will be clearer and more positive than before. You will have a lot more to give, and you will feel full rather than empty, and you will more readily enjoy sharing what you have. You will naturally and easily become kinder, more generous and more caring of others – without having to struggle to achieve this. You will have a happier and more positive attitude to the people in your life and they will respond more positively to you in return.
Is a forgiving person easier to be around than an unforgiving one? Yes, of course they are. A forgiving person is always much easier to be around than an unforgiving one. Is a forgiving person more easy to forgive than an unforgiving one? For most people I suspect that it is easier to forgive someone who is a forgiving type of person.
The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships. The quality of your relationships depends on your ability to forgive.
The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships. The quality of your relationships depends on your ability to forgive yourself and the people around you. Every aspect of your life will change for the better as you learn to forgive; whether in your family, your work life or your social life. Learning to forgive will improve all your relationships, because your attitude will improve. As your relationships improve, then all aspects of your life will also improve.
Forgive yourself, forgive others and you will be find yourself free of the fear and worry that makes it hard to enjoy life. As you become more forgiving life will compensate you for any ways in which others are not wiling to forgive you, or to help you. You will find kindness and peace within yourself as that will become more of what you offer to others. You will be able to move forward in your life with greater confidence based on knowing that there is a goodness behind the happenings of our time. The practise of Forgiveness will help you know, and be part of. that goodness. You will be acting as an expression of that goodness every time you choose to forgive. Learn how to forgive.
By William Fergus Martin, Author: Forgiveness is Power.
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William Fergus Martin
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